Of all the “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, this is perhaps the most difficult habit to master. In all aspects of our lives, as colleagues, parents, spouses, trainers and riders, we seek to communicate our wishes and elicit a desired response. We strive for connection literally and figuratively with our equine partners in hopes of achieving, even for a moment, the joy of such “oneness” we become a single creature, moving in effortless grace and harmony. Like lovers locking eyes and sharing souls without a spoken word, once we’ve experienced true connection, we never want to settle for anything less.

Fundamentally, effective communication-- like effective riding-- is about listening. We all want to be heard, to be understood, for our opinions to count, our feelings to matter, to make a difference—right now! How much harder it is to pause with an open mind, to half-halt our forward momentum, to wait and listen, to be sensitive to another’s point of view, to discern what our horse is telling us about his mental and physical state. But taking the time along the way to listen and reflect, instead of pushing forward towards a stated goal, can yield a wealth of knowledge and insights that may form the crucial turning point in our training, and our relationships.

The art of seeking understanding is not an easily acquired skill. Like dressage it takes years of patience and practice, forbearance and perseverance to master. And even then, the journey never ends because there’s always more to learn. In the coming months as we prepare to host the 2010 GAIG/USDF Region 1 Championships, and the return of a Level 5 CDI*** to Raleigh in June 2011, how well we communicate and connect with each other as NCDCTA members, and then reach out as one to the rest of the dressage community will determine the success of these events and chart the course for our future. My hopes are high, my faith is strong we will rise to the challenge.

Suzanne Mullen President, NCDCTA